Most women have dreamed of their wedding day since they were girls. It’s not surprising that by the time her man gets the gumption sack up and propose, it’s likely that she already knows where she wants the wedding to take place, who her bridesmaids will be, and she probably has a general idea of what her wedding colors should be. It doesn’t end there, though. Her mother has been thinking of her wedding just as long as she has. She knows who she wants to invite to the wedding and the reception, what type of dresses her daughter’s bridesmaids should be wearing, where she should get her hair done, and how the cake and centerpieces should look.

When I asked my good friend Brian (who has been married for about 4 months) about what advice he’d give a newly engaged couple in the process of planning their wedding, he said, “Just make sure your wife and the moms are worried about it. Then everything works out.” In all reality, that’s probably good advice for guys. He continued, “There are already 3 people that have worked out every detail (of the wedding) numbers of times in their heads, it’s best not to add too many opinions.”

When asked to give advice to couples in general, he said, “Continue to date!… It’s easy to spend every moment together worrying about details (of the wedding). Life gets frustrating if you don’t just spend some leisure time together.” I thought that was some pretty good advice. It’s important to remember that although the wedding itself is important, it’s who you are marrying that is what really matters. Don’t loose sight of each other for an event.

My friend, Emily, just recently got engaged and has her whole wedding already planned out. She told me that she has received a lot of praise from married friends when she tells them that she’s going to rent a dress rather than buy one. Some people may frown on that decision, but as Emily says, “I’m probably not going to wear it again, it would probably just take up a whole lot of space in my closet if I bought it. So, I might as well just rent it, enjoy it and then not have to worry about it anymore.” Aside from closet space, renting a dress also saves a lot of money.

I don’t want this post to get too long, but there is surely a lot more we can talk about when it comes to organizing your wedding. We’ll touch back on this subject soon. Until then, learn from these people’s lives and try to make your wedding as happy and stress free as possible! Happy organizing!